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67: Stuck on the Hamster Wheel? The Real Way Out Isn’t Quitting

• Coco Duan, Fortune 500 Senior Executive Turned Life & Leadership Coach • Episode 67

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Do you ever feel like life looks successful on the outside—but inside, you’re exhausted, stuck, and quietly wondering, Is this really it?
Like you’re running hard, doing everything “right,” yet somehow your life feels out of your control?

I know that feeling intimately. I lived it for years.

In this episode, I talk about what’s really happening when you feel trapped on the hamster wheel—and why quitting your job or blowing up your life is not the answer (even if it feels tempting on your worst days).

What’s actually missing is something deeper: agency—the felt sense that you have choice, influence, and ownership over your life, even within real-world constraints like work, money, family, and responsibility.

In this conversation, I share:

  • Why feeling stuck often comes from a false binary (“keep suffering or quit”)
  • What agency truly means—and why it’s an internal capacity, not an external change
  • How I reclaimed my own agency before leaving corporate America
  • The subtle internal shifts that helped me work less, stress less, and feel more alive—while staying in the same company
  • How leading yourself differently changes how you lead others
  • What life and leadership look like when urgency softens, boundaries feel natural, and calm replaces reactivity

I also walk you through the three internal shifts that make agency possible:

  1. Regulating your nervous system so you’re no longer living in fight-or-flight
  2. Working with your protector parts (instead of fighting them)
  3. Shifting your identity from “I’m only valuable because of what I do” to “I’m valuable because of who I am”

This episode is especially for high-achieving women who want to stay in their careers—but lead, live, and relate to work in a way that feels calmer, more grounded, and more fulfilling.

You don’t need to quit to feel free.
 You need to come back into the driver’s seat of your own life.

  • Coco Duan helps high-achieving women executives who secretly doubt themselves to build calm confidence and create success that feels truly fulfilling.
  • I'd love to invite you to take the next step toward building your calm confidence. Book your FREE one-hour consultation call here: https://calendly.com/cocoduancoaching/1-hr-consultation
  • Or email me at Coco@CocoDuanCoaching.com with the subject line: “Consultation.”
  • Let’s discover what’s possible for you. 💫